The psychological origin of self-pity and the need to feel sorry for one’s self often stems from a sense of need that is not being met. Most often, this need is a function of a relationship that one either has experienced in the past or desires to experience, but some function of the self is perceived as being too inferior to function properly. Many who feel the need to pity oneself do not do so out of habit or even out of preference, as most often the condition and the subsequent depression is a very rare occasion. However, more severe social inadequacies can lead to long term self pity and even greater consequences.

Individuals in a situation who cannot succeed or even tolerate the circumstances required to come out on top often fall into the trap of pitying themselves for their imperfections. In many cases, an individual will fall into the often occurring condition of what is known as the spotlight effect. As the name implies, the spotlight effect makes one feel as if every source of attention is fixated upon them — or a part of the body, their clothing, their overall appearance, etc. — when the reality of the situation is that very few, if any, people pay such close attention to notice what may be trivial details.

Overcoming self pity may be a difficult step, especially if the reason for the pitying is not physically capable of being changed. Often times, the best approach is to find a different point of view, one that amalgamates positive associations with a person rather than negative. This is best done by distancing one’s self from the negative feedback (or perceived negative feedback) and interacting with new people or social groups. Without the original trigger for pity, rarely will the negative perception carry over.

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